1. Dua for good life partner.
One of the characteristics of the good servants of Allah is that they are not only concerned about themselves, but just as they themselves adopt good qualities, they also pray for their life partner and family. Give coolness to our eyes by accepting them as your religion and instead of making us the leader of the transgressors and evildoers, make us the leader of those who fear Allah.
رَبَّنَا هَبْ لَنَا مِنْ أَزْوَاجِنَا وَذُرِّيَّاتِنَا قُرَّةَ أَعْيُنٍ وَاجْعَلْنَا لِلْمُتَّقِينَ إِمَامًا۔
Surah al-Furqan, verse 74
Translation:
“O our Lord, make him the coolness of our eyes and make us the leader of those who fear God.”
Status and Education of life partner:
The wife is one of our life partner which have possessor of a dual status, her first status is that of being beloved and the second status is that of being subjugated. When these two statuses are taken care of by both, the household system of life runs well and when one of these two statuses is neglected, the household system of life is destroyed.
When the man considers himself as the ruler and the wife as subordinate, then in a short time the wife becomes upset and the fight goes to the point of quarrel. And when the wife considers herself only as a lover, does not consider the man as her ruler and does not take his words into account according to the Qur’anic order, then the matter reaches the point of divorce.
Islam has said that the best is the one who has good relations with his life partner and family. Some of its cases are as follows:
1. Teach life partner and family about Quran, prayer and other religious orders.
2. Buy good books for the religious education of the life partner and family.
3. Meet the life partner legitimate needs as much as possible.
4. Appreciate your life partner good deeds.
5. Correct your life partner mistakes in a good way.
6. Be patient with your life partner inappropriate behavior.
7. Trust your life partner instead of doubting it.
8. Respect life partner relatives especially parents.
9. Keep life partner away from illicit affairs.
10. Give your life partner some expenses that you don’t account for later.
2. Dua for best life partner.
According to our knowledge, there is no proven and specific dua from the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) for this matter, but you should pray to Allah on your own that Allah will provide you with a good life partner.
While the Prophet (peace be upon him) has taught us all the dua of Istikhara, which means: Let us beseech Allah to choose for us something better in terms of religion and world for all our religious and worldly affairs.
It was narrated from Dua Jabir bin Abdullah (RA) that:
Muhammad (PBUH) used to teach Istikhara for all matters as if he was teaching us a chapter of the Qur’an. Muhammad (PBUH) said: (None of you If he intends to do something, he should perform two rak’ahs in addition to the obligatory rak’ahs, and then say:
اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَسْتَخِيرُكَ بِعِلْمِكَ، وَأَسْتَقْدِرُكَ بِقُدْرَتِكَ، وَأَسْأَلُكَ مِنْ فَضْلِكَ العَظِيمِ؛ فَإِنَّكَ تَقْدِرُ وَلاَ أَقْدِرُ، وَتَعْلَمُ وَلاَ أَعْلَمُ، وَأَنْتَ عَلاَّمُ الغُيُوبِ، اللَّهُمَّ إِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الأمْرَ [at this point recite your name ]خَيْرٌ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي فَاقْدُرْهُ لِي وَيَسِّرْهُ لِي ثمَّ بَارِكْ لِي فِيهِ، وَإِنْ كُنْتَ تَعْلَمُ أَنَّ هَذَا الْأَمْرَ [again at this point recite your name ] شَرٌّ لِي فِي دِينِي وَمَعَاشِي وَعَاقِبَةِ أَمْرِي فَاصْرِفْهُ عَنِّي وَاصْرِفْنِي عَنْهُ وَاقْدُرْ لِيَ الْخَيْرَ حَيْثُ كَانَ، ثُمَّ أَرْضِنِي بِهِ.
Translation:
Ya Allah! I seek success in this work by the charity of Your knowledge and I seek strength from You by the charity of Your power and I ask for Your grace, You alone have the power, I do not have the power, and You alone have the knowledge, I do not have the knowledge. , You are the one who knows the things of the unseen, O Allah! If you know that this work is better for my religion, world and end, then make it my fate and make it easy and bless it, O Allah! If you know that this work is bad for my religion and the world and the end, then remove it from me, and remove this work from me, and then choose for me what is better, and wherever it is. Give it, then make me agree on it.
Bukhari: (1109)
There is nothing more important than religion and morals for the attention of each of the parties.
Therefore, regarding the boy, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) advised the guardians of the girl:
“When a boy [comes to you for relationship] whose morals and piety you like, then marry him. If you do not do this, then there will be temptation in the land, and long and wide corruption.”
Tirmidhi: (1084) Ibn Majah: (1967)
And regarding the girl, the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:
“Usually a woman is married for four things: wealth, lineage, beauty, and piety, so find a pious one, she will make your hands dirty.”
Bukhari (4802) and Muslim (1466) have narrated this tradition.
Hafiz Ibn Hajar (may Allah have mercy on him) says:
“This hadith means that this is what adorns a pious and pious person that his aim is piety in everything, especially in matters that stay with a person for a long time, so the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) has ordered those who wish to marry to find a pious girl.
3. 7 and 8 life path compatibility.
Life is calm if we spend good time with our life partner and family but if we don’t know what will make her angry then problems arise. Can keep girl friend happy.
1. Put Him first over everything else.
A girl always wants attention. If you ignore her, it won’t look good, so always give her priority over everything else.
2. Be nice to her friend.
If you adopt this habit, respect for you will increase in the heart of your spouse. Also, take care to maintain a distance from your friend, otherwise the situation may take a different direction.
3. Stop mentioning his parents in good words.
Always mention your wife’s parents in good terms. Often relationships get damaged only because men mention their in-laws in bad terms, which causes the relationship to deteriorate.
4. Take his career seriously.
You should take her career seriously. If she is doing a job then support her and if she wants to do something else then help her.
5. Don’t live in ego.
If ever there is a fight, don’t stay in the cover of your ego but take the initiative in the conversation, this way love will develop in his heart for you and the fight will end.
6. Ask about the little things.
Asking her about the little things will make her happy that you care about her everything and will grow to love and respect you in her heart.